Finding Mr. Darcy.
What does that mean to you?
To me, it means, finding a man of good character. After reading Pride & Prejudice, as every girl should (thanks Michelle), is is easy to see that the character of Fitzwilliam Darcy is a pretty damn good man. And he's not good in a perfect way. Not like Edward in Twilight. Mr. Darcy is flawed. He is fictional, yes, but not a fantasy (if your definition of a fantasy means something that is not of this world, unrealistic).
Mr. Darcy's good character is something that is most definitely attainable in this world.
This is why I never want to settle. Never.
And I thought I didn't settle in the past. I thought I loved J. But J was not a man of good character. He only seemed to be a man of good character.
The best information I've ever heard in dealing with love is from Randy Pausch, the Last Lecture Professor. He said, "Ignore everything a guy says, and only pay attention to what he does." He said this in reference to girls, knowing quite well that girls are suckers for words: promises and poetry and pretty speeches. We believe them, and mistake them for truth.
So I believe that this is how you really test men: you watch what they do. Do they volunteer? Do they think of others? Do they think of you? In what ways do they show it? This goes for testing women as well.
Now don't think I am extremely bitter in love. I mean, I may be a little bitter. ha. But I believe in lasting relationships and true love. I really do.
I only write this to warn women, and warn myself: that dating men simply to calm the sting of loneliness is a dangerous game, that women should be choosy in who they are dating, that we have the right to expect a lot for ourselves. We are worth it.
Ok, ok, ok. This rant is done with.
I think this is coming from a place of my sister (who is 20 years my senior) not understanding my dating life (or lack thereof). Why do I always have to explain this concept to people without them looking at me like I am disease?
Well, I'm different...get over it!!