I realize that I get jealous easily...I need to work on that. My day would have been better if I hadn't let myself get jealous...but that's just it. Jealousy is not an emotion that's easily controlled.
I understand you a little too close for comfort (mixed metaphor?).
Completely clear your mind. I had that problem last night. I had a new student to work with in my private tutoring job, and it completely took my mind off of it. Unfortunately, it came right back to me when I finished.
Here's something to seriously do. Focus on something that you are really serious or passionate about (other than the guy), such as your degree objective, or maybe something you need to write. Concentrate REALLY hard. And. Just. Let. Go.
i get jealous sometimes too. i try to think about the worst thing that could happen. for example, if i liked Bob and he was making out with another girl, my thought process would go like this,
1st - that dirty slut!
2nd - what's the worst thing that could happen? bob could not like me. big whoop. there are a million other guys out there that are going to like me because i am a badass. i'm cute and sweet and clever. obviously bob has his head up his ass. that bob. what an idiot.
if that doesn't work, i will take my mind of of bob with neal.
this actually is not about a guy I like...this is about a friend, and I feel like I'm almost losing his friendship. But I'm probably also being ridiculous.
You have to really think about things in a big picture. There is more to life than that moment. You can't make yourself not care. You have to truly NOT CARE!!! :)
Say your roommate moves in on a hottie you have been talking with all night. He's suddenly into her and not talking to you. Instead of being jealous, realize that he wasn't worth it and it's better you didn't waste even MORE time...
I'm not sure who you're talking about or if I even know him...but just keep this in mind...if he is truely your friend then you should tell him what's bothering you and he will listen. He can't read your mind and will not know what's wrong unless you tell him (especially if you think you're losing his friendship). And if for some reason he has a problem with what you say...maybe he's not really that close of a friend (jerk). Hope that helps! love ya dude!
I didn't realize that it was jealous over a friend, Ashley. My bad.
What have you got to be jealous about? If you spend enough time with this friend, enjoy their company, then what is there to worry about? I sometimes get jealous over friends, too (a little bit), but I'm sure it will all smooth over.
feeling are controlable but it takes alot of meditation. But u dont want to do what I did and turn them off. Because when they come back on they come back with a vengance.
Drink lots and lots of vodka...
ReplyDeletehmmmm...that could ALSO make it MUCH worse...
ReplyDeleteI understand you a little too close for comfort (mixed metaphor?).
ReplyDeleteCompletely clear your mind. I had that problem last night. I had a new student to work with in my private tutoring job, and it completely took my mind off of it.
Unfortunately, it came right back to me when I finished.
Here's something to seriously do. Focus on something that you are really serious or passionate about (other than the guy), such as your degree objective, or maybe something you need to write. Concentrate REALLY hard. And. Just. Let. Go.
That works for me sometimes.
i get jealous sometimes too. i try to think about the worst thing that could happen. for example, if i liked Bob and he was making out with another girl, my thought process would go like this,
ReplyDelete1st - that dirty slut!
2nd - what's the worst thing that could happen? bob could not like me. big whoop. there are a million other guys out there that are going to like me because i am a badass. i'm cute and sweet and clever. obviously bob has his head up his ass. that bob. what an idiot.
if that doesn't work, i will take my mind of of bob with neal.
i just said neal and bob.
ReplyDeleteWhat is the story behind the jealousy?
ReplyDeletethis actually is not about a guy I like...this is about a friend, and I feel like I'm almost losing his friendship. But I'm probably also being ridiculous.
ReplyDeleteYou have to really think about things in a big picture. There is more to life than that moment. You can't make yourself not care. You have to truly NOT CARE!!! :)
ReplyDeleteSay your roommate moves in on a hottie you have been talking with all night. He's suddenly into her and not talking to you. Instead of being jealous, realize that he wasn't worth it and it's better you didn't waste even MORE time...
Just an example.
I'm not sure who you're talking about or if I even know him...but just keep this in mind...if he is truely your friend then you should tell him what's bothering you and he will listen. He can't read your mind and will not know what's wrong unless you tell him (especially if you think you're losing his friendship). And if for some reason he has a problem with what you say...maybe he's not really that close of a friend (jerk). Hope that helps! love ya dude!
ReplyDeleteI didn't realize that it was jealous over a friend, Ashley.
ReplyDeleteMy bad.
What have you got to be jealous about? If you spend enough time with this friend, enjoy their company, then what is there to worry about? I sometimes get jealous over friends, too (a little bit), but I'm sure it will all smooth over.
feeling are controlable but it takes alot of meditation. But u dont want to do what I did and turn them off. Because when they come back on they come back with a vengance.
ReplyDeleteand alcohol never worked for me....it just made my emtions stronger
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