Having a Growth Mindset
It's the sort of thing where I've got a pseudo routine in place, where I'm regularly grocery shopping and catching the right buses, and maybe even being asked for directions from tourists (soooooo legit).
It's a testament to the adaptability of humans. Even when we reach points in life where our souls feel depleted, we still somehow have the strength to recover. It's a concept I've been learning in class: the growth mindset.
Essentially, you can be one of two people: a fixed mindset person or a growth mindset person. Using the very simple example of a puzzle, the fixed mindset person will give up in frustration when met with harder and unfamiliar puzzles. They will turn back to what's familiar and easy, believing that is all they are good at. However, as you've guessed by now, the growth mindset person takes on the harder puzzles, despite the possibility of failure. They recognize the challenge.
Last year, I can safely say I had a fixed mindset. I flew to Turkey with all the usual fantasies about living overseas and was met with the reality of life. It was the most difficult challenge I had ever faced. A fish out of water confused by my struggle, I retreated. While I had some legitimate reasons for turning back, I was unable to really understand the root of my sadness.
Coming into London, I had already changed my mindset.
Did I tell you guys I cried my first night here? It wasn't from sadness or pain, but rather, shock. A primal reaction took over my body and there I was sobbing on the floor like a complete lunatic, taking in all that shock. Once the feeling passed, I wiped my eyes, left my room and knocked on my neighbor's door. I asked something along the lines of, "Hey! Do you wanna come out with me tonight?" It was an odd transition; but symbolic, none the less.
I was in the fledgling stage of building my new life. Of course, not everyone reacts the same way to an international move. What made my move(s) shocking for me was my fear of the unknown and the challenge ahead. Now I know it is the greatest reward to jump off the highest cliff and still clumsily find a way to fly.
I continue to welcome the challenge.